Can a man who is pretending to be straight suffer from erectile dysfunction when with a woman?
September 11th, 2009 | by admin |
My roommate is dating this guy, who I have thought from day one, is gay. She has confided in me they can not have traditional sex, because he has erectile dysfunction. He has never had a healthy opposite sex relationship and of course, this was always the woman’s fault(his words). It is not one thing they has me convinced he is in the closet, it is the whole package and all of the secret details my roommate tells me just reaffirms my thoughts. Her number one reason she thinks he isn’t is because of the erectile dysfunction. I know several health reasons can cause it, but I know psycologocial can also cause it. And I also know a combination of the two can also factor into it.
And please do not slam me, I really would like to know. I am not bashing or slamming anyone.
8 Responses to “Can a man who is pretending to be straight suffer from erectile dysfunction when with a woman?”
By Anonymous on Sep 12, 2009 | Reply
i think your right. I mean if he’s gay that means that he is not attracted to the women. and if there is no attraction, then of cousre he is going to have problems getting and keeping it up. Could him saying that is is erectile dysfunction just be an excuse.
By Anonymous on Sep 14, 2009 | Reply
Trust me gay men can get erections with women. Maybe not all can but I know plenty of gay men who can get an erection and even have sex with women. They don’t enjoy it so to speak. This man has sexual problems and needs to see his doc. Your friend should encourage him to see and doc to find out if his erectile dysfunction is caused by something medical or if it is a psychological problem that a therapist can help.
By Anonymous on Sep 14, 2009 | Reply
He could be gay. He could be abusing drugs or alcohol. He could just have issues with women. It sounds like he would benefit from talking to a doctor to find out the real cause so that he can address it.
By Anonymous on Sep 16, 2009 | Reply
A number of psychological problems can cause E D. I guess every man will sooner or later experience it.
But, psychologically, the biggest problem is the way his parents handled his sexual training.
He may actually prefer women even if his ding dong responds to men.
By Anonymous on Sep 17, 2009 | Reply
Straight guys can have flags at half staff too. But…if you think he is…he probably is. Some women think the can fix men and look at men as wrks in progress. Others like to be loke Don Quixote and do battle with windmills.
By Anonymous on Sep 19, 2009 | Reply
Good question. I’m gay, was married, couldn’t have intercourse because I couldn’t maintain an erection, wasn’t really motivated to anyway. But I also couldn’t maintain an erection with guys, apparently a congenital problem I inherited that started to show itself in college and has gotten progressively worse.
All of this concerns you how exactly?
By Anonymous on Sep 21, 2009 | Reply
Yes. This COULD be a cause of erectile dysfuntion.
However, this may NOT be the reason too.
The best solution to this problem is for him to go and see a UROLOGIST and see IF the cause is physical.
If it is not, then the cause is obviously (as in many cases) psycho-emotional.
To even attempt to analyse a case such as this from afar is tantamount to foolishness.
i understand your worry and your desire to protect your friend from the pain and hurt that this situation might engender, but I’m afraid that for the moment you will have to ‘bite your tongue’ a bit. Wait until your friend herself becomes more doubtful of where this relationship is heading. if she has starry eyes for this guy then she might NOT thank you for ‘poking your nose in’ EVEN THOUGH YOU HAVE THE VERY BEST ON INTENTIONS !!!
BE PATIENT.
By Anonymous on Sep 22, 2009 | Reply
If he can have erections just not around women then he is probably gay….but if he can’t get it hard no matter what then it is just erectile dysfunction.